If I Were a Man
Abigail Barlow & Emily Bear
Breaking Free from Gender Constraints: The Yearning in 'If I Were a Man'
Abigail Barlow & Emily Bear's song 'If I Were a Man' is a poignant exploration of the limitations imposed on women by societal expectations and gender roles. Through the character of Eloise, the song delves into the frustrations and dreams of a woman constrained by the traditional roles of being a lady. Eloise's lament about having to constantly smile, wave, and obey, as well as her need for a prince to save her, highlights the restrictive and often infantilizing expectations placed on women. The song contrasts these limitations with the boundless opportunities that Eloise imagines she would have if she were a man.
The lyrics vividly paint a picture of the freedom and autonomy that Eloise yearns for. She dreams of traveling to Japan, swimming in the Seine, and learning French—activities that symbolize a life of adventure and self-discovery. The repeated refrain of having 'the whole world in the palm of my hand' underscores the vast potential and opportunities that Eloise feels are out of reach due to her gender. The song also touches on the societal pressures to conform to certain appearances and behaviors, such as wearing gowns and attending banquets, which Eloise finds stifling and anxiety-inducing.
The dialogue between Eloise and Penelope further emphasizes the lack of knowledge and agency that women had regarding their own bodies and lives. The confusion and concern about an unmarried maid being with child reflect the limited understanding and control women had over their reproductive rights. Eloise's desire to escape these constraints and live a life of her own choosing is a powerful commentary on the gender inequalities that persist. The song ultimately serves as a call for greater freedom and equality, challenging the listener to reconsider the roles and expectations placed on women in society.