Joining You

Alanis Morissette's song 'Joining You' delves into the complexities of mental health, identity, and the deep connections we share with others. The song begins with a heartfelt message from a friend’s mother, expressing concern over the friend's mental state. This sets the stage for a profound exploration of the struggles and emotional turmoil that the friend is experiencing. Morissette's lyrics reflect a deep empathy and understanding, highlighting the inexplicable connection she shares with this person since their youth.

The recurring refrain, 'If we were our bodies, if we were our futures, if we were our defenses, I'd be joining you,' serves as a powerful metaphor for the shared human experience. Morissette suggests that if our identities were solely defined by external factors like our physical selves, societal roles, or emotional defenses, she would be in the same place as her friend. This refrain underscores the idea that our true selves are more than the sum of these parts, and it is this deeper understanding that keeps her from joining her friend in their despair.

Throughout the song, Morissette reminisces about their past, recalling moments of intense connection and shared curiosity. She describes her friend as 'mind-boggling,' 'intense,' and 'uncomfortable in your own skin,' painting a picture of someone who is deeply introspective and struggles with societal norms. The song emphasizes the need for reflection, understanding, and finding like-minded companions who can provide support and empathy. Morissette's plea for more frequent communication at the end of the song highlights the importance of maintaining connections and being there for one another in times of need.