Narcissus

Alanis Morissette's song 'Narcissus' delves into the psyche of a self-centered, egotistical man, often referred to as a 'momma's boy' and 'narcissus boy.' The lyrics paint a vivid picture of a man who has been coddled and adored by his mother, leading to a sense of entitlement and a lack of accountability in his relationships with women. Morissette's tone is both accusatory and reflective, as she addresses the man's inability to apologize, take responsibility, or engage in meaningful conversations. This lack of emotional maturity and self-awareness is a central theme throughout the song.

The song also explores the man's aversion to conflict resolution and his preference for superficial interactions. Morissette criticizes his inability to engage in healthy, connected relationships, highlighting his tendency to flee from any talk of selflessness, commitment, or working through issues. The repeated refrain of 'Why do I try to love you when you really don't want me to' underscores the futility and frustration of trying to connect with someone who is emotionally unavailable and self-absorbed.

Morissette's lyrics also touch on societal issues, such as the way people like the 'narcissus boy' are often celebrated and rewarded in society. The song critiques the lack of reciprocity and the ease with which such individuals navigate life without facing consequences. The repeated imagery of the man returning to women who 'dance the dance' and friends who 'lick your ass' emphasizes his preference for relationships that do not challenge his self-centered worldview. Ultimately, 'Narcissus' is a powerful commentary on the challenges of dealing with narcissistic individuals and the emotional toll it takes on those who try to love them.