So Unsexy

In 'So Unsexy,' Alanis Morissette delves into the complex emotions surrounding self-worth and rejection. The song opens with the singer reflecting on how minor rejections accumulate, impacting her self-esteem. A sideways glance or a forgotten birthday can make her feel 'ungood,' a term that encapsulates a deep sense of inadequacy. Morissette poignantly reveals that she has given others the power to affect her self-worth, a power she once believed only her father held. This line suggests a history of seeking validation from significant figures in her life, making her vulnerable to feeling unworthy.

The chorus highlights the paradox of feeling 'unsexy' despite being beautiful, 'unloved' despite being fine, and 'boring' despite being interesting. These contradictions underscore the internal struggle many face when external validation doesn't align with their self-perception. Morissette's lyrics capture the essence of imposter syndrome, where one's achievements and qualities are overshadowed by self-doubt. The repetition of feeling '13 again' suggests a regression to a more vulnerable, formative age, emphasizing how deeply these rejections affect her.

As the song progresses, Morissette explores the failure of her defenses and protections to shield her from emotional pain. A forgotten phone call or a withdrawn hand can leave her feeling deflated and devastated. The turning point comes when she questions when she will stop abandoning herself and start staying true to her own worth. This introspective moment signifies a shift towards self-acceptance and resilience. By deciding not to abandon herself, Morissette finds a way to overcome the sting of rejection and reclaim her sense of self-worth.