He Said She Said

CHVRCHES' song 'He Said She Said' delves into the complexities of self-identity and the pressures of societal expectations. The lyrics paint a vivid picture of a person grappling with conflicting advice and criticism, often from a male figure, which leads to a sense of losing one's mind. The repeated phrases 'He said' and 'I feel like I'm losing my mind' emphasize the cyclical nature of these pressures and the internal turmoil they cause. The song captures the frustration and confusion of trying to meet external standards while maintaining one's sense of self.

The lyrics 'You bore me to death' and 'It’s all in your head' reflect dismissive and invalidating comments that can erode self-esteem. The advice to 'Be sad but don’t be depressed' and 'Get drunk but don’t be a mess' highlights the contradictory and often impossible standards imposed on individuals, particularly women. These lines underscore the struggle to balance emotional authenticity with societal expectations of composure and attractiveness.

The chorus, with its repetitive 'Feel like I'm losing my mind,' conveys a sense of desperation and helplessness. This repetition mirrors the relentless nature of the pressures described in the verses. The song's structure, with its cyclical lyrics and haunting melody, reinforces the theme of being trapped in a loop of self-doubt and external judgment. CHVRCHES' signature synth-pop sound adds a layer of emotional intensity, making the listener feel the weight of these struggles. 'He Said She Said' is a powerful commentary on the impact of societal pressures on mental health and self-identity, resonating with anyone who has felt overwhelmed by the conflicting demands of others.