The Steps

HAIM's song 'The Steps' delves into the intricate dynamics of a relationship where communication and understanding seem to be perpetually out of sync. The lyrics paint a picture of a couple struggling to connect on a deeper level, despite their physical closeness. The opening lines, 'So baby, when I'm near you / You can't feel me, I'm lightnin',' suggest a sense of emotional distance and frustration. This sets the tone for the recurring theme of miscommunication and unmet expectations throughout the song.

The chorus highlights the protagonist's efforts to take steps towards improving the relationship, only to be met with criticism and misunderstanding. 'Every time I think that I've been takin' the steps / You end up mad at me for makin' a mess' encapsulates the feeling of trying hard but never quite getting it right. This sentiment is further emphasized by the lines, 'I can't understand, why you don't understand me / Baby,' which reflect the exasperation of not being seen or heard by their partner.

Another significant aspect of the song is the protagonist's assertion of independence. Lines like 'And every day I wake up and make money for myself / And though we share a bed, you know that I don't need your help' underscore a sense of self-reliance and autonomy. This juxtaposition of shared intimacy and personal independence adds a layer of complexity to the relationship, suggesting that the protagonist values their individuality even within the confines of a partnership. The metaphor of ivy growing sideways, 'All the ivy / Is growing sideways / You won't stop it / 'Till it covers all my place,' symbolizes the uncontrollable and invasive nature of misunderstandings that can overshadow the relationship.

The song concludes with a contemplative note on the nature of relationships and life's unpredictability. 'If I go right / And you go left / Hey, I know we'll meet up again' suggests a belief in eventual reconciliation despite current differences. This reflects a mature understanding that relationships often involve navigating through misunderstandings and finding common ground over time.