Tomo Y Obligo

Javier Calamaro's song 'Tomo Y Obligo' delves deep into the themes of heartache, betrayal, and the societal expectations of masculinity. The title, which translates to 'I Drink and Command,' sets the tone for a narrative steeped in sorrow and a desperate attempt to drown out painful memories. The protagonist seeks solace in alcohol, urging a companion to join him in drinking as he tries to forget a past love. This act of drinking is not just a means of escape but also a ritualistic way to cope with the emotional turmoil he faces.

The lyrics paint a vivid picture of a man grappling with the betrayal of a lover. He reminisces about the intense love he once felt, describing moments of vulnerability and passion, such as kneeling under a tree where he once kissed her. The imagery of the 'deshojado' (leafless) tree symbolizes the barrenness and desolation he now feels. The pain of seeing his beloved with another man is likened to a 'puñalada' (stab), highlighting the depth of his emotional wound. Despite his anguish, he struggles to maintain his composure, adhering to the societal belief that 'un hombre macho no debe llorar' (a real man should not cry).

Calamaro's song also touches on the broader theme of disillusionment with love. He advises against falling in love, suggesting that women often bring more pain than joy. This cynical view is a defense mechanism, a way for the protagonist to shield himself from further hurt. The repeated refrain about men not crying underscores the toxic masculinity that pressures men to suppress their emotions. Through 'Tomo Y Obligo,' Calamaro not only tells a personal story of heartbreak but also critiques the cultural norms that dictate how men should handle their feelings.