Pretend
Mark Erelli
The Art of Pretending in Love
Mark Erelli's song 'Pretend' delves into the complexities and challenges of maintaining a romantic relationship when the initial spark has faded. The lyrics poignantly capture the fear of losing a loved one and the lengths one might go to preserve the semblance of love. Erelli's plea to his partner to 'just pretend' underscores a deep vulnerability and a desperate desire to hold onto the relationship, even if it means living in a state of make-believe.
The song uses vivid metaphors to illustrate the fading passion, such as a smile that no longer makes one swoon or a kiss that doesn't send one to the moon. These images highlight the emotional distance that has crept into the relationship. Despite this, the narrator urges his partner to go through the motions of devotion, emphasizing that even a facade of love is preferable to the pain of separation. This sentiment is encapsulated in the lines, 'I'd rather that you fake it / If you left I couldn't take it,' revealing a profound fear of abandonment.
Erelli also touches on the realistic aspects of love, acknowledging that it can't always be as perfect as a Hallmark card. This recognition of love's tedious and hard nature adds depth to the song, making it relatable to anyone who has experienced the ups and downs of a long-term relationship. The song ultimately suggests that sometimes, maintaining the illusion of love can be a way to navigate through difficult times, with the hope that the genuine spark might be rekindled in the future.