In Spite of Ourselves

John Prine's song 'In Spite of Ourselves' is a charming and humorous ode to imperfect love. The lyrics paint a vivid picture of a couple who are fully aware of each other's quirks and flaws but love each other deeply regardless. The song is a celebration of the kind of love that thrives not in spite of imperfections but because of them. Prine's storytelling is rich with colorful imagery and playful language, making the song both relatable and endearing.

The song's verses alternate between descriptions of the woman and the man, each highlighting their idiosyncrasies. She doesn't like runny eggs, thinks crossing her legs is funny, and swears like a sailor. He hasn't been intimate in a while, sniffs her underwear, and drinks beer like it's oxygen. These vivid character sketches are both humorous and affectionate, showing that love can be found in the most unexpected places and people. The chorus reinforces this idea, stating that 'in spite of ourselves,' they will end up 'sittin' on a rainbow,' suggesting that their love is a rare and precious thing, a 'big door prize' against all odds.

The song's title, 'In Spite of Ourselves,' encapsulates its central theme: love that endures despite, or perhaps because of, the partners' flaws. The repeated line 'never gonna let him/her go' underscores the commitment and deep affection they have for each other. The imagery of 'big old hearts dancin' in our eyes' beautifully captures the joy and contentment that come from accepting and loving someone just as they are. Prine's use of everyday language and relatable scenarios makes the song a heartfelt tribute to the messy, wonderful reality of love.