Chosen Last
Sara Kays
The Loneliness of Being Chosen Last
Sara Kays' song "Chosen Last" poignantly captures the feelings of isolation and invisibility that many people experience, especially during their formative years. The lyrics paint a vivid picture of someone who is physically present but emotionally distant, always on the periphery of social interactions. The recurring theme of being 'chosen last' since kindergarten symbolizes a lifelong struggle with feeling unimportant and overlooked. This sentiment is further emphasized by the imagery of standing off to the side in group photos and being at birthday parties without forming close connections.
The song delves into the internal conflict of wanting to belong but also feeling the sting of rejection. Lines like "I don't speak my mind, I just sit and listen" and "Sometimes I would rather stay home than to show up to be ignored and alone" highlight the protagonist's passive role in social settings. This passivity is not due to a lack of desire to connect but rather a defense mechanism against the pain of being disregarded. The mention of carpooling and riding bikes evokes a sense of nostalgia, contrasting the simplicity of childhood activities with the complex emotions of growing up feeling excluded.
Sara Kays' gentle, melancholic musical style complements the song's theme, creating an intimate atmosphere that allows listeners to empathize with the protagonist's plight. The repetition of the chorus reinforces the cyclical nature of these feelings, suggesting that the experience of being 'chosen last' is not just a one-time event but a recurring pattern. This song resonates with anyone who has ever felt like an outsider, offering a voice to those silent struggles and validating their experiences.